Dating Sites

[cheeky boy]

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But at the very least if your over 40 you'll meet a load of vulnerable women with self confidence issues back on the market after failed marriages desperate for a good stuffing.

 

 

You don't need a dating site for that, the dessert section in M&S is full of them

[ManxMelody]

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is there still stigma?

 

I think there is a stigma attached. If I were living in the UK I might possibly consider a dating website if I didn't meet anyone the 'usual' ways, but I don't think I'd do it here because the place is too small and everyone knows everyone else.

 

I think most Manxies tend to get married really young so the dating 'pool' on the Island usually consists of divorcees or just undesirables. Most of my friends have imported their boyfriends - met someone that has come over here to work, or they have left the Island, met someone and brought them back. That's also how I met my last boyfriend (he came over here to work). If you don't have any baggage, go and live off the Island for a bit, you'll meet someone and can then bring them back. This will also improve the 'dating economy' for other Manx singles, as the imported person will have friends that will come over and visit and they might meet a single Manxie, etc etc.

 

I think it's harder for single women out there than men. Most guys you meet on a night out are only looking for one thing. So if you're a single guy looking for more than that surely it must be easier because most women are usually looking for more. Aren't they?

[Lao]

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is there still stigma?

 

I think there is a stigma attached. If I were living in the UK I might possibly consider a dating website if I didn't meet anyone the 'usual' ways, but I don't think I'd do it here because the place is too small and everyone knows everyone else.

 

I think most Manxies tend to get married really young so the dating 'pool' on the Island usually consists of divorcees or just undesirables. Most of my friends have imported their boyfriends - met someone that has come over here to work, or they have left the Island, met someone and brought them back. That's also how I met my last boyfriend (he came over here to work). If you don't have any baggage, go and live off the Island for a bit, you'll meet someone and can then bring them back. This will also improve the 'dating economy' for other Manx singles, as the imported person will have friends that will come over and visit and they might meet a single Manxie, etc etc.

 

I think it's harder for single women out there than men. Most guys you meet on a night out are only looking for one thing. So if you're a single guy looking for more than that surely it must be easier because most women are usually looking for more. Aren't they?

 

ouch! as a single man on the Island who isnt a divorcee, i feel the sting of the above classifications.

 

i cant leave the Island as i run a business here, and as for being easier, i dont know who it is harder for but it sure ain't easy for men.

 

but maybe im just fugly.

[Lao]

dont all rush to assure me im not fugly you bastards.

[Donkeyteapot]

As a newly single woman, I'm seriously considering registering with a dating site at some point, but am still weighing up the pros and cons as mentioned by others already.

 

Yes, I am a divorcee, but so what? Having been married before isn't all that much different to having cohabited with someone, in practice. (That's not saying that being married is the same as just living together, that's a whole different discussion for another day.)

 

I really am not looking for one night stands, and I doubt that someone I might meet drunk in a nightclub is going to be someone I'll stay with a long time. Having not been on the island that long I haven't got a massive circle of friends here, but I do want to stay, so a dating site may be a good way to cut to the chase, so to speak.

[studmuffin]

As a newly single woman, I'm seriously considering registering with a dating site at some point, but am still weighing up the pros and cons as mentioned by others already.

 

Yes, I am a divorcee, but so what? Having been married before isn't all that much different to having cohabited with someone, in practice. (That's not saying that being married is the same as just living together, that's a whole different discussion for another day.)

 

I really am not looking for one night stands, and I doubt that someone I might meet drunk in a nightclub is going to be someone I'll stay with a long time. Having not been on the island that long I haven't got a massive circle of friends here, but I do want to stay, so a dating site may be a good way to cut to the chase, so to speak.

 

Albert, meet donkeyteapot

 

:dashes of to buy new hat

[Vulgarian]

I think most Manxies tend to get married really young so the dating 'pool' on the Island usually consists of divorcees or just undesirables.

 

Yeah, thanks for that...

 

With our small, mostly captive population there are only going to be so many available people. In the past that was less of a problem - you'd most likely end up marrying someone in your circle of friends, or one of their friends because there was nobody else - but now people's requirements of their partners are becoming more specific and their expectation are getting higher, in other words they're more picky. Everyone is looking for their perfect person, whether it's realistic or not. These sites enable them to be as picky as they like about partners, and filter out "undesirables", but ultimately it leaves a lot of people lonely because they have not found someone who meets their unrealistic expectations.

[ManxMelody]

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is there still stigma?

 

I think there is a stigma attached. If I were living in the UK I might possibly consider a dating website if I didn't meet anyone the 'usual' ways, but I don't think I'd do it here because the place is too small and everyone knows everyone else.

 

I think most Manxies tend to get married really young so the dating 'pool' on the Island usually consists of divorcees or just undesirables. Most of my friends have imported their boyfriends - met someone that has come over here to work, or they have left the Island, met someone and brought them back. That's also how I met my last boyfriend (he came over here to work). If you don't have any baggage, go and live off the Island for a bit, you'll meet someone and can then bring them back. This will also improve the 'dating economy' for other Manx singles, as the imported person will have friends that will come over and visit and they might meet a single Manxie, etc etc.

 

I think it's harder for single women out there than men. Most guys you meet on a night out are only looking for one thing. So if you're a single guy looking for more than that surely it must be easier because most women are usually looking for more. Aren't they?

 

ouch! as a single man on the Island who isnt a divorcee, i feel the sting of the above classifications.

 

i cant leave the Island as i run a business here, and as for being easier, i dont know who it is harder for but it sure ain't easy for men.

 

but maybe im just fugly.

 

Well that's just how it seems to me. It also seems that if you're over 30 and not married on the Island you're on the shelf. Anywhere else it would be perfectly normal and you'd be considered to be in your dating prime. I think maybe Manx men are also a bit backward in coming forward. You should (and all single Manx men reading this) be courageous next time you go out and talk to women (nicely and not when drunk). Please don't take offence at the last sentence, it's directed at Manx men in general.

[Donkeyteapot]

Albert, meet donkeyteapot

 

:dashes of to buy new hat

 

Thanks studmuffin! Pleased to meet you Albert.

 

It also seems that if you're over 30 and not married on the Island you're on the shelf.

 

Better make myself comfy on this shelf then.

[Miss Take]

dont all rush to assure me im not fugly you bastards.

 

But you might be fugly. Your avatar definitely is. And by the way, your tail is on fire.

[Vulgarian]

dont all rush to assure me im not fugly you bastards.

 

But you might be fugly. Your avatar definitely is. And by the way, your tail is on fire.

 

Uh, yeah, what is that?

[Lao]

dont all rush to assure me im not fugly you bastards.

 

But you might be fugly. Your avatar definitely is. And by the way, your tail is on fire.

 

i might be fugly?

 

so you're saying there is a chance i might not be..........excellent!

[Cresta Fiesta]

If I ever found myself to be single again I'd have no hesitation to use a dating site, it's hard to meet people in the 'grown-up' world, especially when everyone's trying to juggle work and family commitments and generally get on with the rest of life.

 

If some folks want to attach a stigma to it that's their small-mindedness really, it stands to reason that you're only ever going to meet a small proportion of eligible single people via traditional means, you might even be in the same pub as them but not see them because they're on the other side of the bar, your potentially perfect partner lost forever because a fruit machine was in line of sight - a dating site is a perfect way to put yourself out there in a safe environment and to take your time before making any decisions.

[TootieBootie]

I met my husband on DatingDirect. We have been together for a total of almost 5 years, married for 2 and we have just had our first baby, a daughter who is 3 wks old today!! We are very happy!! :0)

I used the dating sight as I had just moved over to the island and found it very difficult to meet people through the usual routes. I hadn't established a social circle and my line of work made it very difficult to meet men (most people I worked with were women who wer quite a bit older than me and already settled down).

My hubby used it partly to see if anyone on the island actually used these sights and also because he is a little shy and found it quite difficult to do the chasing and asking people out who might knock him back.

It is the best thing we ever did!

 

However, I would agree that you have to be very careful about who you meet and where you meet - always tell someone where you are going.

 

I actually disagree with a previous post about them doing it if in the uk but not here - I feel the exact opposite! I found that here you have the security of being able to find out a little about the person you are meeting and you can bet that you know someone who knows the person you intend to meet which means it is actually safer! If I was in the UK, I wouldn't have used Dating sites as I feel it is more dangerous.

 

I think it is a very sensible way of finding a partner... I don't think meeting in a bar when you are both drunk is a very good idea and chatting online first means you can get to know the other person a little before (although, don't bank on everything they tell you to be true as many people do tell porkies!)

[ManxMelody]

I met my husband on DatingDirect. We have been together for a total of almost 5 years, married for 2 and we have just had our first baby, a daughter who is 3 wks old today!! We are very happy!! :0)

I used the dating sight as I had just moved over to the island and found it very difficult to meet people through the usual routes. I hadn't established a social circle and my line of work made it very difficult to meet men (most people I worked with were women who wer quite a bit older than me and already settled down).

My hubby used it partly to see if anyone on the island actually used these sights and also because he is a little shy and found it quite difficult to do the chasing and asking people out who might knock him back.

It is the best thing we ever did!

 

However, I would agree that you have to be very careful about who you meet and where you meet - always tell someone where you are going.

 

I actually disagree with a previous post about them doing it if in the uk but not here - I feel the exact opposite! I found that here you have the security of being able to find out a little about the person you are meeting and you can bet that you know someone who knows the person you intend to meet which means it is actually safer! If I was in the UK, I wouldn't have used Dating sites as I feel it is more dangerous.

 

I think it is a very sensible way of finding a partner... I don't think meeting in a bar when you are both drunk is a very good idea and chatting online first means you can get to know the other person a little before (although, don't bank on everything they tell you to be true as many people do tell porkies!)

 

 

That's such a lovely and positive story! I've just moved back to the Island having been away studying and then working, so I'm in the same position as you were in with regards to establishing a social circle again.

 

That's got to be encouraging to the person that started this topic though. Thanks for posting.