hboy Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 (edited) I think it's harder for single women out there than men. Most guys you meet on a night out are only looking for one thing. And most men surfing late at night for female company are not just looking for "one thing?" Get real. The only difference is that they are used to spending hours w**nking into the early hours for weeks before they get a result. Edited August 9, 2009 by hboy Quote
Gladys Posted August 9, 2009 Posted August 9, 2009 It is an interesting thread. Being a divorcee of 7 years now, my children have always been the priority so dating has been something of a clandestine matter with discreet encounters but a relationship had never been in my mind. The children are much older now and I do feel it is my time, but how to do it is quite difficult. I have dabbled in dating sites, mainly in the early days, really just to see what would come up, but most show a really great match (their words, not mine) in Carlisle or Hull. I did meet up with a local result from one and was pretty put off by the whole episode. Perhaps I will give the web another go, but the hard bit is a truly local site which doesn't involve travelling off island to meet the matched man of your dreams! There again, 'cranky old woman' is starting to look quite attractive! Quote
Topaz Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 About twelve years ago, before we were all using email and other forms of rapid communication. I was on a weeks secondment to a newspaper in Liverpool, and living here on the Island. For some reason the items for inclusion in the personal column kept landing on my desk and I had to keep redirecting them to the classified section. One day a really goodlooking Catholic priest came in to see me. He was doing a piece for the Catholic Herald, and was planning a visit to the Island in the forseeable future. I agreed to help him find accomodation etc. His name was Father Michael. Time went by and eventualy he contacted me, I booked him into a hotel, made some arrangements for him and quite looked forward to showing 'Michael' the Island. ( yes, of course I knew he'd be celibate, tsk.) Well the day came and I set off to the airport to meet and greet, as you do. I watched the plane come in, and I watched the people come up the walkway, no Father Michael. I waited until the airport was nearly empty again and was just about to leave when a tiny man in a long grey overcoat and big blue mohair scarf approached me. " Excuse me, are you XXX ?" he said. I replied that I was indeed that person. " Oh thank goodness " he says. " I thought , perhaps you'd changed your mind. I'm Michael." Bewildered, as I was, I realised that something strange had happened.....Michael had somehow been provided with my name and phone number to his box number in the lonely hearts column. God ( most likely) knew what correspondence Father Michael had been recieving. I never had the courage to find out. Quote
Slim Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 If I ever found myself to be single again I'd have no hesitation to use a dating site, it's hard to meet people in the 'grown-up' world, especially when everyone's trying to juggle work and family commitments and generally get on with the rest of life. Agree, although I'd not rely on one 100%. There's still lots of good 'traditional' ways to meet new people, must have been introduced to at least ten new faces myself this weekend, it's amazing what's around in terms of 'anyone welcome' socials when you start looking. I still find it hard though, particularly meeting people I know off the interwebnet. 'Hi it's Slim, you know the argumentative one off Manxforums...' doesn't always give the best first impression Having said that, had a mate recently single, he's hammering the dating site thing and it's gone very well. His hot tip, don't for for a big first date, forget meals, cinema, bowling, all that stuff. Meet up somewhere and have a chat, if you're not going to get along you know pretty early on and can cut the night short and save both sides an excruciating experience. Quote
littleh Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I have to admit that I was skeptical about internet dating websites but after giving it a go I met my current boyfriend and we've been together for 3 years. Hopefully within the next six months he's going to move to the island and we'll see how it goes from there I can understand how anyone would be a little afraid to venture into this particular way of dating. Yes there are weirdo's and those people that lie about their circumstances but that could be the same if you met someone in a pub. However, for every weirdo/liar, there are loads of people just looking for someone similar to them for good conversation and the chance to see a future. My bf and I started emailing firstly, then used MSN on a regular basis (talking up to 5/6 hours a day), snail mail because sometimes getting a letter is just nice, then talking on the phone and then the best introduction was webcams. At least when that happened I knew the pictures he had sent me weren't doctored LOL. Anyway, he doesn't live on the island but that to me was great to start off with. He came to the island first and stayed in a hotel. When I first met him there were about 5 people who knew where I was and at what time, plus I had a number of check up calls Seems silly now but you still have to be careful. Anyway, I guess the rest is history! We took things slow, talked a hell of a lot and I'm a very happy girl What were my reasons for doing it? Well... most of my friends are married/engaged/have children so therefore getting out at the weekend to the pubs on the island was not something I could do without back up. Those that I did meet on the odd occasion were usually absolutely wrecked and spat on me whilst trying to tell me "I had the most beautiful eyes they had ever seen". Unfortunately my job does not give me the opportunity to be involved in other social groups so I just wasn't getting anywhere. My bf is 7 years older than me. His reasons for joining... About a year before he'd just come out of a 6 year relationship, confidence wasn't all it should be and his friends were all married/engaged/had children. So the opportunity to go out wasn't there and one of his friends suggested online dating. I don't think dating websites should be dismissed so easily. I think they are a fantastic extension to the dating world. My only suggestion would be to not expect results straight away, be picky and be honest Quote
Slim Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I think it's harder for single women out there than men. Most guys you meet on a night out are only looking for one thing. So if you're a single guy looking for more than that surely it must be easier because most women are usually looking for more. Aren't they? I don't think 'a night out' is the best way of meeting someone. Quote
somewhatdamaged Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 (edited) I think it's harder for single women out there than men. Most guys you meet on a night out are only looking for one thing. So if you're a single guy looking for more than that surely it must be easier because most women are usually looking for more. Aren't they? I don't think 'a night out' is the best way of meeting someone. i agree, the chance of meeting your future partner in Paramount or the Outback drunk is pretty slim. You wouldn't turn up a the bank asking for a mortgage whilst pissed out of your head, likewise, you wouldn't buy a car whilst shitfaced. Why would you expect to meet your future partner whilst in the same condition? Also, Lao is a lovely, handsome chap. Call him ladies! Edited August 10, 2009 by somewhatdamaged Quote
Lao Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I think it's harder for single women out there than men. Most guys you meet on a night out are only looking for one thing. So if you're a single guy looking for more than that surely it must be easier because most women are usually looking for more. Aren't they? I don't think 'a night out' is the best way of meeting someone. i agree, the chance of meeting your future partner in Paramount or the Outback drunk is pretty slim. You wouldn't turn up a the bank asking for a mortgage whilst pissed out of your head, likewise, you wouldn't buy a car whilst shitfaced. Why would you expect to meet your future partner whilst in the same condition? Also, Lao is a lovely, handsome chap. Call him ladies! cheers man, the above recommendation was well worth the £5! good to see you at the traf on saturday and share martial arts horror stories. try chris' place, im sure you will be able to train without further injuring your knee. Quote
slinkydevil Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 I think it's harder for single women out there than men. Most guys you meet on a night out are only looking for one thing. So if you're a single guy looking for more than that surely it must be easier because most women are usually looking for more. Aren't they? I don't think 'a night out' is the best way of meeting someone. i agree, the chance of meeting your future partner in Paramount or the Outback drunk is pretty slim. You wouldn't turn up a the bank asking for a mortgage whilst pissed out of your head, likewise, you wouldn't buy a car whilst shitfaced. Why would you expect to meet your future partner whilst in the same condition? But you wouldn't ask someone to marry you or be your 'future partner' while you're pissed in Paramount. Surely if you meet someone, then you'd have a few more dates. I'd imagine on the second date you'd find out what they were like sober and vice-versa. Probably a lot uglier than you thought at the very least Quote
ManxMelody Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Hey, there could be Manx Forum blind dating. There's no subscription to pay and you can get an idea of a person from their posts and profile page. You shouldn't expect to actually meet someone that you were attracted to that just happened to reciprocate your feelings though - I think that's asking a lot, but at the very least you could make a new friend and increase your social circle. Albert, you could be the administrator for it. Quote
Lao Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Hey, there could be Manx Forum blind dating. There's no subscription to pay and you can get an idea of a person from their posts and profile page. You shouldn't expect to actually meet someone that you were attracted to that just happened to reciprocate your feelings though - I think that's asking a lot, but at the very least you could make a new friend and increase your social circle. Albert, you could be the administrator for it. "Uncle Albert's dating agency" our motto: settle for whatever you can find, before you get stuck on the shelf! Quote
ManxMelody Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Hey, there could be Manx Forum blind dating. There's no subscription to pay and you can get an idea of a person from their posts and profile page. You shouldn't expect to actually meet someone that you were attracted to that just happened to reciprocate your feelings though - I think that's asking a lot, but at the very least you could make a new friend and increase your social circle. Albert, you could be the administrator for it. "Uncle Albert's dating agency" our motto: settle for whatever you can find, before you get stuck on the shelf! Are you having a go? I'm not on the shelf................yet! I like the name of the agency though. Quote
VinnieK Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Hey, there could be Manx Forum blind dating. There's no subscription to pay and you can get an idea of a person from their posts and profile page. If there's one thing the forum needs more of, it's bitter recrimination from bad dates seeping into threads. There should be a whole subforum for this scheme, one where people are paired not according to their choice, but the common will of the forum majority as expressed through polls. Quote
Miss Roo Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Hey, there could be Manx Forum blind dating. There's no subscription to pay and you can get an idea of a person from their posts and profile page. You shouldn't expect to actually meet someone that you were attracted to that just happened to reciprocate your feelings though - I think that's asking a lot, but at the very least you could make a new friend and increase your social circle. Albert, you could be the administrator for it. "Uncle Albert's dating agency" our motto: settle for whatever you can find, before you get stuck on the shelf! Are you having a go? I'm not on the shelf................yet! I like the name of the agency though. Get a room you two! Quote
xbones Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 Why is there a google ad for www.IsleOfManFishDating.co.uk at the bottom of the page? Quote
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